Not the show.... Me. I was a teen mom. 16 & pregnant, yep, that was me. I had Desi when I was just 17 years old. Her dad had just turned 18 and had graduated high school the spring before. Were we ready? No. Could we afford it? No. Was it planned? No. But we made it work. He didn't have a lot of support from family and neither did I. It was left to us to figure out.
By no means do I think having to figure this out was a bad thing. I have never thought that I missed out on something. I made decisions that led me to being a teen mom. I decided to have sex. I decided to not follow up on the effects of taking antibiotics while on birth control. I decided to not have an abortion or put my baby up for adoption. These are decisions I made. I can not blame my childhood or circumstances for the way my life was going. Everyday since the day my daughter was born I have been dedicated.
I see many good mothers, many great mothers, but then there are some others. Everyday there is a mom on a social media site that is to busy with their own life to be bothered with the life they decided to create and to actively mother. It kills me to see children raised by aunts or grandparents out of obligation. I am glad that these kids have an adult that WANTS to raise them, but the damage it does to family ties are usually irreparable. Wake up women!! Our children grow up so fast, don't let them slip through your hands. Instead of spending two weekends in Vegas or Tuesdays and Thursdays at the bar and Fridays at the club, RAISE your children. Read to them, play with them, soak in every bit of these precious moments you have with them. I commend every birth mom that has given her child to a loving family. Awesome decision, if you are pregnant and do not believe that raising a child is an option for you, give it a loving home. Now, I know some women out there have babies and believe their partner is always going to be there and be the best dad anyone could hope for. Statistics show this isn't the case most of the time. Maybe the daddy didn't stick around or maybe he is a complete jerk, that doesn't mean you quit being the mom. Value this gift you have been given. You made grown up decisions, act on them.
Please, for the sake of our future let's raise nurtured children. Let's be the moms these little miracles deserve.
Hey, love, I was a mom at 17 too, unplanned. Wish I had done as good a job raising my kids as you did. I had to work, there were 6 kids and not enugh money. You are tops in my eyes.
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