Walking the line

I absolutely love my kiddos and being a mom. It is one of the greatest things, I believe, someone can do with their lives. My children will always have me to look out for them or if they need anything. I will always strive to be able to do whatever it is that they need. Whether that's putting a little more strain on my finances or giving them a little more space. I know as they get older it will be hard for me to let them go but that's what we do. We raise our children the best we can and hope that they can go out into the world and make some kind of positive impact. I am raising my daughters to be self sufficient women who by all means will be able to take care of themselves if they need to. I don't ever want my girls to feel they need to rely on someone. To be able to rely on someone is one thing but I don't want them to NEED to. I will raise my son to be a man who respects people and be the type of man someone could rely on if THEY need to. 

I will never make any of them feel bad for wanting a great education, even if that means I'll be broke and/or they will be far from me. There are some parents I know that hold their children back from becoming something greater by refusing to condone or by refusing to help financially. I wish they could realize the damage they do. 

I will never be so obsessed with my children's relationships that it interferes with them. When my children are grown and have adult relationships I will keep my nose out of it. If they need someone to talk to or lean on if things go badly, I will be there. I will not judge them for the type of person they decide to be with. I can't stand how some parents can not just mind their own business. They are so rapped up in their children's relationships that their kids start to resent or even dislike them for it. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!

Children and adults alike have to be able to make mistakes in life to be able to see what works and what doesn't. My children will know we love them and that we are there no matter what. I want them to feel they can come to us for anything. I will not enable my children. They will become responsible, respectful, self assured adults. I look forward to this in their future.

Hopefully the parents that are doing more damage than good, will see the way they are hurting their kids. Maybe one day some of these parents will start to grow up themselves......